1. Intro

For me, when it comes to compliments, there is one golden rule to follow. Too often, in the midst of pursuing a girl (especially when one focuses on quick escalation, eg. Night clubs etc.) guys tend to screw it all up. Sometimes, guys screw it up from the beginning. This can all be avoided if they just remembered the #1 rule when it comes to complimenting a woman… or anyone for that matter.

2. The most important rule

The most important rule of a compliment is that it has to be GENUINE. It has to be Justified. Don’t fall prey to the desperate need to build rapport or a forced emotional connection. Personally, I have had so many problems in the past when I tried to escalate an interaction too quickly. After forcing rapport desperately by talking about something deep but I was not interested in, I gave out disingenuous compliments as a base for escalation. While I must admit, it may work sometimes (especially when my wingman is Jim Beam), often, this is not a good idea. Let the similarities find you!

3. Issues with appreciation

The truth is, people have issues with appreciation. They fear that giving out too much of it will make them look like boot-lickers, cheap/low value. When they do muster enough courage and appreciation to give out a sincere compliment, they are pushed away. I am certain everyone has been there before. You give someone a compliment and that person goes, “No, nah, blah blah…” Annoying isn’t it? Then there are the people who think that anyone who compliments them is just looking towards taking something from them. Women will think men just want to get into their pants, men will think that women just want the keys to his recession-proof riches.

4. Everyone wants to be indispensable!

Especially if you are a quality TDD student, showing appreciation is so important. This was a big lesson for me because I had such high-standards and I often intimidated women from even trying to get close to me. Add the fact that I wasn’t showing enough appreciation and encouraging them, it was really a tall order for them to overcome. If you are the 24/7 Attractive Man, attraction will come naturally. A woman needs to know that you appreciate and are interested in her, therefore you will need to show it because she wants to feel wanted by you. Which is why you need to be a master of helping her to help you. Once she helps you, you have to appreciate her so that she would feel like she adds value to your life. No one wants wants to be a dispensable part of someone else’s life, everyone wants to be indispensable!

5. Samples

Personally, I love giving out compliments and showing my appreciation. There is something so liberating about it. It not only makes the other party feel good, it makes me feel good as well. But having learned through experience that people have issues with appreciation, I generally prefer to keep my appreciation inside me for a bit longer first. It’s not that I don’t want to give it, I do, but I want to be SURE that this person deserves such appreciation first. I am an Attractive Man, therefore it is logical that I have high standards. If I was a truly Attractive Man, I would be accustomed to simple efforts made for me and therefore, I only show my appreciation for outstanding efforts made to do something/prove a point. Some people are not going to make it up to my mark, that is the honest truth. In terms of conversation, observe the following 2 scenarios : Scenario 1 Carla : “I like food.” Xavier: “Omg, I like food too! I love you!” Carla : “Erm…” DESPERATE-INTEREST!!! Scenario 2 Wendy : “I like food.” Xavier : “Everyone likes food…” (most of the people I meet like food, show me how you stand out!) Wendy : “Not like me! Once, I queued up for 1 whole hour for my Teriyaki Beef rice because I wanted it so bad!” ( Xavier : “That’s crazy haha! Cool, a girl who stops at nothing to get what she wants… :-) “ That’s more like it ;-) Also, picture these 2 scenarios : 1) You pick up $50 from the floor. 2) You work 10 hours for $50.

6. Final words

Which of the $50 will be worth more to you? Definitely #2 because you worked for it, you earned it LEGITIMATELY, therefore you TREASURE IT. Harsh but this is the TRUTH, as I always promise to all my readers. When it comes to appreciation, are you that person who just gives people appreciation when they have not earned it, spoling them and making them less appreciative of your appreciation? Or are you the one that makes people wanna work hard for your appreciation?